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Culture shock comes in different forms. Staring is one of them. Staring is quite common for the foreigner (non-Asian) to experience in Eastern Asia. People will stare because you look different, they are curious and they are not taught that staring is bad. Eastern Asia is also largely homogenous meaning that 95% of the population or so is Asian and if you're not Asian you'll stick out.

There is another kind of staring that will take place as well if you are a foreign male. And that kind of staring can happen when you go to the bathhouse, hot spring, gym shower or just any old public restroom. Some Asian men are going to want to check out your package.

I imagine that this will pretty much happen to you at least once while in Asia. Here's an example. In a public men's restroom there are a number of urinals side by side, so you're going to use one and as your minding your business doing your thing don't be surprised if the Korean, Japanese, Chinese or Taiwanese male next to you is peaking or perhaps staring at your stuff.

Is it because he is homosexual? No, it's just curiosity and they may have heard that foreign men are more well endowed, so they may want to check you out. Another funny thing I have experienced is that there could be ten empty urinals side by side and you'll be standing at one and then the next guy who walks in could choose any urinal to stand at, but he happens to choose the one that is next to you.

A similar thing could happen in the hot spring or bathhouse. In Korea they are called "jimjiban" and in Japan "onsen" and in China "wenchuan". In some of these people will bathe in the tubs or pools naked as they are separated by sex and you may find a few males checking out your apparatus.

So again it doesn't mean that they are homosexual. In fact it's quite unlikely as you're more likely to meet a homosexual male in your own country than you are in Eastern Asia where there is quite a stigma to be homosexual.

I found it to be a bit irritating at times, but after some time you get kind of used to it. If it really bugs you then you can say something although unless you will be avoiding urinals and public showers completely you're likely to encounter it again.

This is one example of culture shock. Peoples concept of personal space and what's appropriate vary from culture to culture. Living abroad tests your own assumptions of what's right.

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